The flower girl and her dress are on your wedding to-do list. If you want to prepare your flower girl for your wedding day, follow this guide, we will go through everything you need to know.
Flower girls aren’t limited to wearing tiny replicas of the bridal gown. Flower girls also look adorable dressed in the same style dress as the bridesmaids, or fitted in tea-length white dresses with satin bows to match the bridesmaids’ dresses.
Matching the dress is very popular with brides who are mothers. If their daughters are their flower girls, this occasion would be special for the little girl as well as her mother.
She should be between four and ten years old, any younger and they might find your wedding a challenge.
She may be small, but your flower girl has a big job; have her duties explained to her during preceremony rehearsals. Have her practice how she carries her basket of flower petals or pomander (a ball of flowers suspended from a ribbon) and walks before you leading the way for your walk down the aisle. Make sure the basket isn’t too heavy for her to carry. She will definitely jump into her role once she is around other dressed-up members of the bridal party.
Scattering a perfect blanket of petals is not easy, so if that’s what you’re looking for, have your wedding planner or florist, spread them before the ceremony. Then the flower girl can just sprinkle a few more petals on top during the walk down.
While it’s not your bridesmaids’ job to watch her, find someone who can keep accompany her until it’s time to go. Her trip down the aisle is sure to be one of the more memorable moments of your day.
If the flower girl is very young or very shy, it can be a little bit overwhelming for her to be the centre of attention. Make sure she knows who to look for if she gets nervous. Suggest that she walks before the maid of honor instead of before the bride. That way, if she gets nervous, the maid of honor can guide her down the aisle. Seat the flower girl’s parents toward the front of the ceremony so she can focus on them and be encouraged by their reassurance. After finishing her walk, very young flower girls should sit with their parents, whereas, older flower girls may stand at the altar with the bridesmaids.
Having two flower girls or pairing up the ring bearer and flower girl so that they can walk together and help each other toss flowers from the same basket is another idea. It’s the bride’s decision to pick more than one girl for this role. Depending on the wedding size, the bride can choose up to 3 girls to join her on the aisle.
Points to keep in mind when choosing a dress for your flower girl:
Kids run around, fidget and generally don’t have the patience for restricting designs, so opt for comfortable styles. You might not believe it, but style is almost as important to most little girls as it is to the grown up girls. So look for dresses that are similar in style to the bride’s gown. This will help the child feel like they are a real part of the wedding.
Choose the dress together with the flower girl and her parents to make sure the dress will be appropriate and comfortable for the flower girl. Involve the flower girl in the buying process. Ask her for her opinions and respect her preferences. When she looks amazing and feels confident walking down the aisle, she will be a true red carpet star.
Taking a small girl to the mall and trying out too many dresses can tire her out and make her dread the idea of being your flower girl. A better way might be to take her shopping online. Show her different flower girl dresses and get an instant feel for what she likes.
Children grow quickly so order the dresses as close to the wedding date as possible. The shop assistant will be able to help you with this.
Select a fabric weight that corresponds with the weather to prevent her from feeling too hot or too cold. If the outdoor wedding is to be held in early spring, make sure your flower girl has a pretty cardigan that compliments her dress to slip on when it gets cold. Consider buying tights for her little legs. You do not want her freezing on that aisle.
For summer weddings, cotton and linen are great fabrics. A nice spaghetti-strapped dress for a hot summer’s day would be much better for a young girl than burying her beneath layers of lace and fabric. If your wedding is in a warm interior venue during a cold season, you can go with a lightweight fabric or short-sleeve dress. Simply add a cardigan to the ensemble that is easy to slip on or remove.
Floor length dresses are very pretty but if your flower girl isn’t used to them she may end up tripping down the aisle. Consider a tea-length dress instead, so it’s not too heavy for your flower girl to wear all day.
One of the most important factors to consider when purchasing a flower girl dress is comfort. Stick with a breathable quality fabric that she has previously worn with comfort and doesn’t itch. No bride or groom wants to see a flower girl walking down the aisle wiggling, scratching, or pulling at her dress. This way they’ll stay in their dress for the entirety of the wedding and you won’t have any embarrassing moments.
Flower girls don’t necessarily have to wear white. Lemon yellows, mint greens, and pretty pinks are popular choices for flower girls. Candy-colored frocks perfectly complement the sweetness of these little girls. You can even match the flower girl’s dress to the flowers at your wedding!
A colorful sash adds a beautiful pop of color to a white flower girl dress. Match the color of the sash to the bridesmaid dresses for a look that ties in the entire bridal party together.
Considering that flower girls are generally between the ages of four and ten, it’s appropriate for them to be wearing dresses befitting their ages. Sleeves add a demure look to the dresses and make the girls look even sweeter.
When to buy the flower girl dresses?
The dress should be bought at least a couple weeks in advance. This way you will have the necessary time for making adjustments if the dress isn’t a perfect fit.
After It’s All Over
Talk about the day with your flower girl and make sure she has some photos so she can look back on the experience as she grows older. A special day like this will hopefully become a very clear childhood memory for her—one that she’ll cherish for years to come.